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#370: Best of: How to Take a Guilt-Free Vacation
I'll walk you through the 3 steps you must complete before leaving for a vacation, so your time away from the law office actually does what it’s supposed to do.
#369: Best of: Values Alignment
When our actions don’t align with our values, things feel off. If you’re feeling that tug—this episode of Be a Better Lawyer is for you.
#368: Best Of: What Your Clients Think of You
Learn how your brain’s thoughts about your clients could be negatively impacting how much money you make in your law practice and how you feel every day.
#367: Best Of: The Codependent Lawyer
Today you'll learn the surprising impact of codependent tendencies and how to start dissolving those tendencies, so you can create a law practice you love.
#366: Is Your Brain Holding You Back?
If you’re working long hours, putting out fires, and not making the traction you want to see in your law practice, listen to today’s episode.
#365: Be Yourself Again
If you feel like you have no time left for yourself then this episode is for you. You can have a thriving law practice and a life that feels like yours
#364: Reclaim Your Personal Power
In this episode of Be a Better Lawyer discover how the life of your dreams is on the other side of reclaiming your personal power
#363: How to Know if it’s the Right Time to Hire a Coach?
In this episode, we'll discuss what coaching is (and isn’t), hand how to make empowered decisions that aren’t driven by fear or other people’s opinions.
#362: The Future of AI and the Law with Christine Uri
In this episode, we dive deep into the world of AI governance and what every lawyer needs to know as AI continues to shape the legal landscape.
#361: Taking Charge of Your Experience
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#360: Dissolving Distractions
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#359: Why Your Duality Unlocks Change
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#358: 3 Fears Costing Your Law Firm Money
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#357: Intentional Productivity
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#356: Handling Hard Weeks
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#355: The Systems for Successful Attorneys
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#354: Leaving the Law with Special Guest Elena Deutsch
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#353: Self Management
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#352: Embody Your Future Self Now
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#351: Reset Your Money Beliefs with Special Guest Darren Wurz
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#350: The Art of Preparing for Trial with Special Guest Elizabeth Larrick
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#349: How to Stay Committed to Your Goals
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#348: 3 Tips to Crush Your 2025 Goals
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#347: Embracing Your Perfection
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#346: The Mental Game of Contemporaneous Billing
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#345: How to 10x Your Time & Money Investments
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#344: Reclaim Your Energy with Time Peace
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#343: Let Go, So You Can Let In
The biggest cause of unhappiness is holding onto the past. When you hold on to the past, you can't make space for something better. Instead, you stay stuck replaying past mistakes
#342: The Secret to Better Planning
The secret to better planning is a mindset focused on possibility. If you're overwhelmed by your endless to-do list or the idea of planning your week feels more like an extra
#341: 5 Tips to Manage Your Energy During the Holidays
In this episode of Be a Better Lawyer, I’m sharing 5 tips to manage your energy during the holidays — so you can truly enjoy the season without feeling overwhelmed or
#340: The Key to Effective Team Management with Penny Zenker
Managing a team can be challenging, especially when balancing client demands, deadlines, and time constraints. That’s why I'm thrilled to introduce Penny Zenker, a productivity expert, TEDx speaker, and author of
#339: Stop Battling and Change Faster
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#338: How to Build a Book of Business (without Burning Out) with Special Guest Heather Moulder
If you're a lawyer who wants to build a book of business but fears burning out in the process, this episode is for you. My guest Heather Moulder, former Big Law
#337: Healing Cancer Holistically with Special Guest Dr. Katie Deming
Healing cancer holistically isn't something we've been taught in our society is possible. In this episode of Be a Better Lawyer you'll challenge everything you believed was possible. I’m thrilled to
#336: 4 Steps to Delegate Effectively (and Simply)
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335: “There's Something Missing.”
You’ve achieved the accomplishments, the success, and the financial security, but something still feels “off.” There’s this strange sense of emptiness, a craving for something more that you can’t quite put
#334: 6 Behaviors Sabotaging the Success of Your Law Practice
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#333: Confidently Raise and Communicate Your Rates
Just the thought of raising your rates might make your palms sweat. Many lawyers hesitate to increase their fees, worrying about how clients will react or fearing it could negatively impact
#332: The Mindset of Successful Attorneys
In this of Be a Better Lawyer, we dive into The Mindset of Successful Attorneys — and how small shifts in thinking can transform your life and your law practice. Ever
#331: 6 Sneaky Time-Wasters (and How to Fix Them)
On today's episode of Be a Better Lawyer I'm sharing 6 sneaky time-wasters draining your energy and preventing you from growing your practice. Time management is 25% planning and 75% mind
#330: Re-Choosing Your Life
When was the last time you re-chose your life? Did you know you could do that? You can re-choose every aspect of your life. Feel unfulfilled? You can re-choose that. Feel
#329: Reframing Rejection
Rejection is one of our biggest fears, {{ subscriber.first_name }}. Just the thought of someone saying “No” to us can prevent us from asking for what we want and building the
Why Do I Snap At People So Easily? | The Time Peace Sessions Part 5
Why do I snap at people so easily? In the Time Peace Sessions, I'm answering some of the most frequently asked questions I get from lawyers. You'll gain insight into why
Why Is It So Hard To Manage My Time? | Time Peace Sessions Part 4
Why is it so hard to manage my time? In the Time Peace Sessions, I'm answering some of the most frequently asked questions I get from lawyers. You'll gain insight into
Why Do I Work So Hard? | The Time Peace Sessions Part 3
Why do I work so hard? In the Time Peace Sessions, I'm answering some of the most frequently asked questions I get from lawyers. You'll gain insight into why you do
Why Do I Procrastinate? | The Time Peace Sessions Part 2
Why do I procrastinate? In the Time Peace Sessions, I'm answering some of the most frequently asked questions I get from lawyers. You'll gain insight into why you do what you
Why Do I Feel So Behind? | The Time Peace Sessions Part 1
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#328: Creating Safety to Fail
Ever tried something new and it felt impossible to accomplish? In fact, maybe you tried the same thing over and over and over again, trying to get a new workout routine,
#327: 3 Steps to Create Habits Faster
Ever wonder why it's so hard to create a new habit? You're not imagining things. Creating (and breaking) habits is both an art and a science. Lawyers tend to underestimate 3
#326: Financial Freedom for Lawyers: Strategies and Mindset with Niraj Chhabra
Want to increase your net worth? This episode of Be a Better Lawyer is a must-listen. I’d like to introduce you to Niraj Chhabra. He’s the managing director of Sidebar Advisors
#325: Unraveling Perfectionism
Perfectionism blocks us from doing our best work and prevents us from taking action on our goals. Listen in to create the shift you need in your life.
#324: Waiting For Courage
What do you want right now? Is it to: write a book start a new workout start a business hire a coach grow your net worth Are you taking action on
#323: Feeling Isolated
If you feel isolated at your firm, you're not alone. But what is isolation costing you in terms of your long-term happiness at your firm? And what can you do about
#322: Unreasonable Desires: Go After Your Most Audacious Goals
When I began following desires that seemed impossible to me, that's when my life changed for the better. Today I'm inviting you to have unreasonable desires. Desires you may not be
#321: How to Create an Intentional Life and Law Practice with Andrea Lauritzen
Washington-based estate planner Andrea Lauritzen is a powerhouse. But she didn’t always see the power that she had inside herself. She was a new partner who felt overwhelmed. She’d tried a
#320: How to Be a Happy Lawyer with Special Guest Nancy Cogar
What's it take to become a happy lawyer? Today, Nancy Cogar, a veteran attorney, shares the wisdom she’s acquired over the years to achieve just that.
#319: Goal Avoidance: How to Stop Avoiding Goals
Setting intentional goals is the fastest way to create the lives and businesses we want. So why do so many of us either not set goals or forget about them altogether
#318: Becoming Unshakeable
Ever wonder what it takes to have incredible inner strength? To be unshakeable? Today I’m sharing some of my favorite lessons that I’ve learned on becoming unshakeable in my life, law
#317: 3 Myths About Starting a Business (That You Probably Believe)
Ready to leave your law office and launch a business? Before you do, there's three myths you need to be aware of. Listen to this episode to learn more.
#316: Making the Impossible Possible: Coaching Open House
Today, we'll discuss the subconscious mind and its influence over us and how we can begin reconditioning ourselves to create the life and law practice we want.
#315: The Power of Constraint
Constraining what you do in your law practice and when you do it will help you achieve your goals faster. Listen to this episode of Be a Better Lawyer to learn
#314: Creating Peace in Your Law Practice
If you're always on the go, learn the practices that can bring you peace even when you feel the most pressure to get things done.
#313: Thinking Big Picture in Your Business
Thinking big picture in your business allows you to run your law practice instead of the practice running you. Learn how in this episode of Be a Better Lawyer.
#312: Are You a Checklist Lawyer?
Are you a checklist lawyer? If so, you're wasting time, energy, and creating frustration in your practice. Listen in to find out how to get out of the Checklist Mentality and
#311: Demanding v. Expanding Energy
If you want to grow your law practice (or even simply survive it!), Demanding Energy has to go. Listen in to this episode of Be a Better Lawyer to learn how.
#310: Ending Chaos in Your Law Practice
I'm sharing two of the most common mistakes I see my clients make, that I see other lawyers making, and I even make them myself from time-to-time. 🤫
#309: How to Handle Difficult Opposing Counsel
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#308: Solving Next Level Problems in Your Law Practice
Diagnosing and solving next level problems in your law practice is the difference between feeling overwhelmed and calm. Learn how to strategize in this episode.
#307: My Best Time and Money Investments This Year
This episode is for the lawyer who wants to continuously improve their life. I'm sharing the top ten time and money investments I've made this year ranging from tweaks to transformative.
#306: How to Be a More Confident Lawyer
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#305: Success and Conscious Well-Being
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#304: Design Your Vision for a Life & Law Practice You Love
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#303: 9 Must-Do Action Items to Fast-Track Growth
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#302: Your Money Relationship
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#301: Your Mindset Makeover for Law Firm Growth
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#300: 6 High-Performance Strategies for Law's Busiest Weeks
How do you maintain high-performance even during one of your most challenging weeks? You know how to plan and follow through. But do you know how to create a container for
#299: Streamline Your Law Practice
Today on Be a Better Lawyer we’re smoothing rough edges in your law practice causing you to waste time and money. We're streamlining. There's 4 things that can block us from
#298: Level-Up by Releasing Past History
Releasing past history is a requirement to leveling up our lives. Learn how to release past history to take your life and law practice to the next level.
#297: What Clients Think About You
Do you worry about what your clients think about you? It could be having more of a negative impact on you and your practice than you know. Listen in to learn
#296: The Truth About Positivity
Society teaches us positivity is "thinking happy thoughts." Notice you're still not happy? Clearly there's a gap here. This episode will fill that gap for you.
#295: How to Use This Podcast
Start using Be a Better Lawyer Podcast to it's fullest potential in your life and law practice. Download my guide to help you focus on topics you need most.
#294: Creating Client Boundaries
Struggle with boundaries? Listen to this episode of Be a Better Lawyer Podcast to learn how to create boundaries with clients, so you love your practice more.
#293: Stop Second-Guessing Yourself
It's time to stop second-guessing yourself and start having your own back. Listen in to gain the confidence to have your own back for any decision you make.
#292: The Systems for Successful Attorneys
Creating systems in your law practice is more than knowing software. It's about finding the hidden frustrations in your practice and solving for them.
#291: 3 Challenges Hitting Goals (and Their Fixes)
This episode is for the dreamers. The lawyers who want to go after big goals. There's 3 challenges I see when trying to achieve goals. Learn what they are and get
#290: How to Increase Billable Hours (And Have a Life) with Special Guest Jackie Figueroa
Today we're talking to Jacqueline Figueroa who will tell you how to increase billable hours AND have a life. Jackie's not just an accomplished insurance defense attorney at a national firm
#289: How to Hire an Amazing Team with Special Guest Alison Carr
🎙️ Join us on Be a Better Lawyer Podcast as we sit down with Alison Carr, a seasoned expert ready to spill the beans on unlocking the secrets to hiring an
#288: Conscious Consistency with Cathy Council, Master Coach
Struggle to be consistent? Today, my friend and Master Life and Weight Coach is on the podcast to share her wisdom to help you take action and get consistent.
#287: Enjoying the View
If you feel in a rush to achieve your next goal, pause a moment. Are you enjoying the view from where you are right now? If not, it's costing you.
#286: Own Your Year: Craft a Purposeful and Prosperous 2024
You’re going to want to grab a pen and paper, so you can take notes as you’re listening because this episode will help you prepare and plan your goals for 2024
#285: Refining Output
If you're feeling frustrated with any are of your law practice, this episode is a must-listen. Refining your output powerfully impacts your practice.
#284: Whose Job Are You Taking On?
A common challenge humans face is the tendency to take on other people's roles and responsibilities. Learn to break this pattern for more peace and well-being.
#283: 5 Problems Stunting Your Firm's Growth
Listen to this episode of Be a Better Lawyer Podcast to discover 5 of the most common problems stunting your firm's growth and how to solve for them.
#282: Planning for Growth
Are you planning for growth? Today on the podcast you'll learn EXACTLY what you need to do to begin planning your law firm's growth in 2024.
#281: Strategic Mindset Principles for Your Law Practice
If you feel overwhelmed, there's something you should know: you're not in Strategic Mindset. In this episode, learn how to get out of overwhelm, so you can think strategically about the
#280: Your Wake-Up Call with Special Guest Jim Fortin
Working hard but wonder why all your work isn't leading to a better life? I'd like to introduce you to Jim Fortin. He's a leader in transformational coaching.
#279: 7 Blocks to Law Firm Growth
There are 7 blocks to law firm growth that could be preventing you from growing your practice. Learn what they are and overcome them in this episode.
#278: The “I have to” Box
Today you'll learn a potent strategy to open yourself up to possibility and create the law practice and life you want. We're talking about the "I have to" Box.
#277: Becoming a Powerful Creator in Your Life
In this episode, learn how to become a powerful creator in your life and your law practice and get inspired to take action to make the change you want.
#276: Calming Panic
Panic isn't something lawyers like to talk about because it feels vulnerable to talk about. Calming panic is a learned skill. Learn how in this episode.
#275: Mindset Essentials, Part Two
Get ready to add rocket fuel onto the results you're already getting with mindset work. Learn 2 key principles most people miss when they do this work.
#274: Mindset Essentials Part One
This Mindset Essentials series is for anyone who's a student of this work. You'll learn the common mistakes I see as a Master Coach and former lawyer.
#273: Elevate Your Law Practice
How do you feel about your practice? That feeling is the foundation you're building on. Is it steady and calm or is it frazzled and overwhelming?
#272: Overcoming Resentment
All of us experience resentment, but most of us think it's a part of life instead of doing something about it. In this episode, learn to overcome resentment.
#271: Are You Over-Learning?
Ever wonder why you're not making the progress you want? It may be because you're over-learning. In this episode, find out what you need to avoid over-learning and get into action.
#270: Believing in Your Potential
Ever want to try something new and hear this voice say, "That's too much," or "That's a bad idea"? Wonder what else that little voice is preventing you from doing? Listen
#269: The Feel Good Episode
Ever feel frozen by anxiety or stress? Learn a mindset tool I use with clients to help them when they feel negative emotion. When they feel better, they can get into
#268: Are You Playing it Safe or Evolving?
Are you playing it safe or evolving? Learn how to tell the difference between the two and how to start making change even if you feel resistant to it.
#267: Seeking Significance
We all are seeking significance in our lives. But what creates it? Learn where significance comes from and how to use this concept to energize your work
#266: 6 Lessons Learned Growing a Business
The legal profession doesn't teach lawyers how to be entrepreneurs. Apply these business lessons learned to your law practice to make it easier.
#265: How to Use ChatGPT in Your Law Practice
Today we're talking about how to use ChatGPT in your Law Practice. ChatGPT can make life easier, but you need to listen in before you use it in your practice.
#264: Creating an Emotional Energy Refresh for Your Space
I love the idea of creating spaces that feel peaceful. They help us focus and feel amazing. Today, create an emotional energy refresh for your spaces.
#263: Values Alignment
Do you have values alignment? Most of us think we know what our values are, but if we take a closer look, a lot of our actions may prove otherwise.
#262: Boundaries with Employees
Do you know there's a problem with your assistant or associate but you keep putting off doing anything about it? This is how you know you're avoiding: 👉 you don't make
#261: How to Follow Through
Not following through? You don't need more discipline or willpower. And you're not lazy. There's a very different problem happening in your brain that you likely have little or no awareness
#260: How to Use Content for Business Development
Let's talk business development. This is going to be a fun episode. I’m a total marketing geek, and I loved learning about marketing while I was starting to grow my business.
#259: Result Atrophy and Overcoming Resistance
Have a goal or a task you've been putting off? You've hit resistance. Resistance is normal. It’s even desirable because it tells you there’s a next level for you. But if
#258: Productive Shortcuts vs. Wishful Thinking
Want to boost your productivity and well-being at the same time? You need to know the difference between productive shortcuts and wishful thinking. We like shortcuts. Shortcuts are supposed to use
#257: Your Foundation for a Life Reset
Ever want a life reset? Most of us have but didn't know where to start. Each of us has a different starting point depending on our current mindset. In this episode,
#256: Starting a Business
Thinking about starting a business? Maybe you want to start your own law practice. Or maybe you want to start a business completely unrelated to the legal profession. Before you get
#255: Why You're Not Planning Your Week (and How to Start)
If you're like a lot of lawyers I talk to, you're not planning your week. You want to, but life keeps getting in the way. Sound like you? Then you'll want
#254: Re-Balancing Your Life
If you're feeling disconnected from yourself or out of balance, you're not alone. I've been there, and there are 5 questions that helped me see where I needed to become more
#253: Solving the Right Problems in Your Law Practice
Solving the right problems in your law practice is the difference between feeling overwhelmed and calm. It's the difference between feeling like you're drowning and enjoying your practice. But our brains
#252: Identity Breakthroughs
Identity Breakthroughs are earned. In this episode of Be a Better Lawyer Podcast, discover your current identity and learn how to uplevel it.
#251: How Do I Know I'm Making the Right Decision?
Today we're answering the question, "How do I know I'm making the right decision?" Learn how to think about your decisions to make the best impact on your life.
#250: Thinking vs. Worrying
What’s the difference between thinking and worrying? If you feel overwhelm, stress or anxiety, chances are high you’re worrying far more than thinking.
#249: Your Next Move
Wondering what your next move is going to be? Stay where you are? Go out on your own? Grow your practice? I’ve designed this episode to give you a structure to
#248: Better Trials, Time Management and Firm Culture with Shannon Clark
If you want to learn how to be a better trial lawyer, listen to this episode. Shannon Clark talks time management and more on Be a Better Lawyer Podcast.
#247: Belief Before Action
Belief before action. No one teaches us that's how it's supposed to work. Not knowing this prevents us from taking action on our dreams. This episode is for the dreamers. Lawyers
#246: Why We Procrastinate
Think you know why we procrastinate? Think again. In this episode of Be a Better Lawyer Podcast, we get to the bottom of why we procrastinate, so you can get into
#245: “How to Stop Feeling Layoff Anxiety” and Your Other Questions Answered
In this episode I answer some of your burning questions. You'll hear my answers to: “How do I stop feeling anxiety about layoffs?” “Why am I lazy?” (And how to start
#244: Friday Wrap-Up Ritual
This Friday Wrap-Up Ritual is a *must* for all lawyers. In this episode of Be a Better Lawyer Podcast, get the exact Friday Wrap Up Ritual you need to improve your
#243: The Time-Money Mindset Link
How we think about time inevitably influences how much money we make. What we think activate chemicals in our body that determines how we feel. How we feel drives how we
#242: Making Life Easier with Big Law Attorney Kimberly Lopez
Kimberly Lopez has been an attorney in Big Law for 15 years. During that time she's amassed a lot of wisdom that she's sharing with you today on Be a Better
#241: How to Hit Your Goals in 2023
In today's episode, I walk you through the mindset it takes to hit your goals. You'll learn how to: integrate the lessons from 2022 even if you think successes were just
#240: Calming Anxiety
Calming anxiety is easier than you might think. A few things you need to know: 1. Anxiety is normal. There's nothing wrong with you. We simply weren't given coping skills for
#239: Taking Care of Yourself
Taking care of yourself is an art + it's the game-changer you need if you're feeling "blah" about life or work. Listen in here. #lawyers #attorneys
#238: Billables Mindset
You may be thinking billable targets are impossibly hard to make or that you don't have enough time to hit your targets. Making more billables doesn't have to do with how
#237: Purposeful Thought Work for Ambitious Lawyers
Ever sit at your desk thinking about what ifs? What if you started your own practice? What if you expanded your practice? What if you made partner? What if you started
#236: Talking to Loved Ones About Your Dream
Talking to loved ones about your dream can feel vulnerable. We want them to tell us that our idea is amazing and that we can do anything we put our mind
#235: Four Lawyers Talking Turkey
Today is Thanksgiving, so I thought it appropriate to share an episode with four lawyers talking turkey. I'm sharing a fun conversation I had with Suzi Hixon and two other lawyers
#234: Focus Errors
A couple years ago a client gave me a testimonial that said, “Dina helps me focus on what I CAN do instead of focusing on what I CAN’T.” This was such
#233: 5 Thoughts Sabotaging Your Law Practice
Every thought we have either moves us closer to or further away from our the goals we have for our law practice. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 (okay, really 7)
#232: When the Dream Becomes a Trap
Imagine this: You’re living the dream you used to have. You own your own firm. You’ve made partner. Or you became a lawyer like you’d planned, and you feel trapped. It
#231: What “Slowing Down” Really Means
The other day I was talking to a lawyer about what it meant to slow down her brain. Thinking of slowing down felt scary to her. She was working so hard
#230: 9 Power Moves for Your Law Practice and Life
What if you could make vast improvements to your law firm and life by implementing 9 power moves? Would you do it? Or would you tell yourself, “I'll do it later?”
BONUS: Working Less, Making More, and Loving Life with Nancy Cogar
Meet Nancy Cogar: an elder and estate planning attorney as well as my client. In this special episode we talk: learning to build her own practice without overwhelm the turning point
#229: Going After Your Goals with Gary Miles
Meet Gary Miles. He’s a family lawyer, a success coach, and a wellness advocate. On this episode, we talk: Gary's multiple lives as a lawyer and his transitions the consequence of
#228: Nervous System Dysregulation
One of the most important things I work on with my clients is nervous system regulation. It helps them feel better no matter what’s happening in their life or how anxious
#227: Confidence and Making Time with Judith Gaton
Today I want to introduce you to my new friend, Judith Gaton. She's smart, she's sassy, and she has a fashion sense. Judith also happens to be a former managing partner